SOLUTION TO LONELINESS
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1. Prayer
2. Questions For Self-Examination
*Do I Need to Change My Attitude?
*Do I Have a Negative Viewpoint?
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Let's First begin with a prayer
God, please give me the strength to endure whatever comes my way. I don't ever want to lose the wonder of knowing you personally. So please help me eagerly pursue a life marked by love, faith, and patient endurance. I want to finish my race strongly, In Jesus name. Amen
Today, Let's come together and talk about Loneliness
IF YOU are lonely, you need to ask yourself:
'Are there things that I can do to improve my situation? Do I need to make some changes in my life? If so, what changes can I make? 'The following questions may help you to make a personal examination and find satisfying solutions.
Do I Need to Change My Attitude?
Anyone can be lonely. But the situation is not hopeless. The longer it lasts, the more likely it is that you will develop a negative attitude. The problem may lie in the way you act in the company of others. It is possible to put oneself in the place of others and not want others to be their friends. Sometimes a person just needs to change his attitude.
Sabine, who moved to England, says: “It takes time for new friends to build trust and adapt. Why not ask others about their upbringing? I was told: ‘You can’t say that certain cultures are the best. Benefit from the good things in all cultures.' As Sabine was encouraged to do, you can find good qualities in others' cultures that will benefit you if you imitate them.
Do I Like to Avoid Others?
You might ask yourself: 'Do I have a tendency to stay away from people? Can they be more friendly if I am more outgoing? ‘If you feel that is the case, try to be more outgoing.
Roselise, a 30-year-old from Guadeloupe who immigrated to England, says, "People who feel lonely have a tendency to isolate themselves." So he recommends: “Look for people who are lonely. Take the initiative to talk to them. At times, just one question produces lasting friendships. ”
However, it takes time and effort to develop close friendships. One way to do this is to be a good listener. If you listen carefully, you will know what interests your partner. Remember, empathy contributes to the friendship!
Do I Have a Negative Viewpoint?
Low self-esteem can prevent a person from forming good friendships. Ask yourself, 'Do I have a tendency to be negative?'
Abigaïl, a 15-year-old in Ghana, admits: “Sometimes I had negative thoughts that made me feel lonely. I felt inferior, and I became introverted. ”Rest assured that if you take the initiative to reach out and help others in some way, they will not be disappointed. They may even want to be your friends.
So why not take that first step?
Having a positive view of yourself can also help you to develop friendships with people outside your age group. Having friends who are older or older than you are rewarding.
Abigail overcame her loneliness especially with those of older friends. He explains, "I benefited greatly from their experience."
Am I Isolating Myself?
Many lonely ones find a measure of relief by watching television or playing video games for hours at a time or using their computer. But when they turn off the equipment, loneliness returns. Elsa, 21, in Paris, agrees, "Television and video games can be like a drug that has a long history of making friends."
The effects of television watching are that people do not communicate, exchange ideas, or do not have the opportunity to develop friendships. Video games have a similar effect - they take a person to an imaginary world that disappears as soon as he or she stops playing.
An unwholesome visit to the Internet can cause a person to forget his problems, but it can also expose a person to immoral practices and expose those who hide their identity. The Internet is not a good place to find or cultivate genuine friendships.
Am I Looking for a Spouse?
Some single ones may pursue marriage simply to avoid their loneliness. True, a kind and loving mate may make you feel happier in your life, but be careful not to rush into marriage.
Marriage may not be the solution to the problem of loneliness. It is said that spouses who have difficulty communicating are “among the most lonely in the world.” Sadly, too many people have had such experiences.
So if you would like to get married someday, why not address the problem of loneliness first? By adjusting your attitude and habits and taking the initiative to make friends while you are still single, you may be building a solid foundation for a happy marriage.
You Can Cope With Loneliness
Your loneliness may not be solved immediately. But you can deal with it by following the Golden Rule that Jesus mentioned. He said: " Therefore, all things whatsoever that you wish that men would do to you, do so also to them. For this is the law and the prophets" (Matthew 7:12)
So if you want others to be friendly to you, you need to be friendly. If you want others to open your heart to you, you must open your heart to them. Some may not respond immediately, but in time, they will respond. Even if they don't respond, you'll be glad you did.
Jesus mentioned another principle that can help you to cope with loneliness: "There is more happiness in giving than there is in receiving." (Acts 20:35) If you use your time to help others, whether it is helping a child with homework or shopping for an older person in the store or doing chores or gardening, you will be happier and more likely to find a true friend. .
How to Find the Best Friend
There are other ways to deal with loneliness. Don't just lock yourself in the house. If possible, walk in the garden or in the countryside. When you are alone at home, use your time to do other things, such as sewing, doing housework, fixing things, or reading. One person wrote, "No amount of stress is too much for me to handle once an hour." Many have found comfort in reading the Bible psalms.
Experts say that associating with people who share the same religious beliefs can help one to overcome loneliness and also has health benefits. Where can you find people who strive to follow the Golden Rule?
In a book on interfaith, one nonprofit observer wrote: “In their community, [Jehovah's] Witnesses form a community of people who truly trust and tolerate one another.”
Jesus identified the identifying mark of true Christians when he told his disciples: "By this all will know that you are my disciples, if you have love among yourselves." (John 13:35) Such love - first for God and then for fellow worshipers - identifies those who practice the true religion. —Matthew 22: 37-39.
Cultivating a friendship with God is the best way to deal with loneliness. As a friend, you never feel lonely! —Romans 8:38, 39; Hebrews 13: 5, 6.
WAYS TO OVERCOME LONELINESS
● Be positive
● Limit the amount of time you spend with other people, such as watching television
● Seek out friends who share your values, including those who aren't your age group
● Above all, I will develop a friendship with God
